Saria Smiles

Life with an Aspergers Child


April 2012

Recipe for butt-er

While working on homework for measurements, Saria was tasked with copying down some ingredients from a recipe. We keep a Monkey Bread recipe on the fridge, so Saria was working from that.

While writing 3/4 cup butter, she asked “Why does butter have butt in it?”

I didn’t know the answer, so this set us back a bit. She couldn’t stop wondering about the meaning behind her discovery.


Silver lining

Saria has been attack hugging kids at school, and has started to get a bad reputation, even though I don’t see a problem with hugging, some kids would rather not be hugged. I’ve been giving her direction on how to improve her reputation, and she has been working on complementing kids and trying to keep her hands to her self.

While driving to school, I was giving Saria more ideas on what she could complement, so that she doesn’t keep complimenting kids on their shoes and their backpacks. I was suggesting necklaces, new hair styles, and Saria finished with “and ties?”

I said “Yes, and ties. Great idea!”

“That reminds me, ” Saria said, “I forgot to wear my tie.”

It only took her a split second to find the silver lining though, and she added “At least I don’t live in the jungle and a monkey could have stole it.”

We found a Board Certified Behavior Analyst!

She comes to our home in late April.  More to come on this…

Saria’s Law: Eye for an Eye

We were notified today that Saria was “name-calling” at school.  Usually we aren’t given the details, so we will ask her to tell us her side of the story so we can have a fair reaction.  When we asked her what happened, she stated that she was not calling them bad names.  She insisted that instead she was calling them “cutie-pies” but they heard it as “stupid-heads”.

Upon further investigation later that night, we found she not only was calling them bad names, but there was something else she said that the teacher did not know about it.  Since she has recently become interested in gardening and in the tree saplings we see growing all over the yard, she was hypersensitive to the kids on the playground pulling them out. Mark had explained to her that if left alone, they can grow to become trees.  Apparently she was telling the kids to stop.  She explained that they were growing trees and that when you pull them out of the ground, you kill them. When they wouldn’t listen she called them names and when they kept pulling them out, she told them that since they were killing all those poor trees, that she was gonna kill them.

Of course she doesn’t really mean it, but her passion sometimes gets in the way of her filtering process.  In fact, she told me yesterday that she can not help saying things without thinking because, “that’s just an Asperger’s thing”.  To which I quickly retorted that it may be, but it is also something that we will be working on improving.   When we do finally find a behavioral therapist to work with us,  she will have her work cut out for her.

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